Recently i came across one of my primary school friend.We were meeting after such a long time.I was really happy to see him.We wished each other as usual and the conversation continued.My friend said-"hey man ..you look the same as you were in school ..you have not changed one bit".I thought give me a break.How can a person of 22 look the same when he as a 12 year old.And also the way he said was really irritating.He said as if he had changed drastically and i have remained the same 12 year old kid.I hit back saying that -"for your kind information ,even u look the same as the last time i saw you".
Later i came to realise the true meaning behind those statements.These people had increased their volumes,but me fortunately or unfortunately had maintained my size.Then i felt really bad that i lashed out at him like that.
Then there are those "gyan gurus" who never ever want to see a change(meaning u as a person,your attitude towards life,way of dealing with things,etc) in you.They always expect you to behave in a way u used to many years back.One of my school friends with whom i had completely lost touch till recently has resurfaced again.
The other day we were travelling together in his bike and he started giving me gyan."see nithin..you have to change..you have to mingle with people..see the outside world.you cant be completely immersed in books....an" and went on and on and on....I kept quite,thinking that he was my childhood pal after all and why should i ever give an explanation to him saying that i have changed a lot..i have lot of friends ...this that and everything..
These gyan sessions continue even today.Whenever i meet him ,there will be one gyan session for sure.Now ,when i sitback back and think i feel that i am leading a much better life than him,have more friends who are worthwhile than him,am enjoying life much more than him.But,he is turnng a blind eye (intensionally or unintensionally) to all this and he measures me with the same yardstick.
Now ,i have decided that me not hitting back and keeping quite was the biggest mistake i did.I have learnt a very valuable lesson in life.."NEVER EVER TAKE ANY COMMENT THAT YOU FEEL IS NOT VALID OR THAT HURTS YOUR SENTIMENTS,EVEN IF THAT COMMENT WAS MADE BY YOUR CLOSE FRIEND..YOU AS A PERSON AND YOUR EGO IS VERY IMPORTANT THAN A FRIEND OR ANYONE WHO MAKES SUCH A COMMENT.SO HIT BACK ,DONT TAKE EVERY WORD THAT IS THROWN AT YOU".